VERY 1st Blog….

I am a 42 year old women with a 8 year old daughter and a loving husband. Well it looks like a picture perfect family. But I wonder what is a picture perfect family, its just a notion in our mind that we have build for ourselves around us and in our mind , that if you fall in the following structure of the society which is created by us and around us you are designated as such.

Well this very first blog is dedicated to myself.

While stepping in 40’s a few years back I did not think much or gave a much thought about it , that it would be any different than my 30’s . But gradually I can feel the change . I am much wiser now than I was before. My friend circle has got lot smaller than it was earlier . I am comfortable with very few people or what I would rather say , I can connect myself with few without pretending to be someone than just me. My fear of whether people liking me or not is gone. Now all depends on me if I like them or not. I do not feel the need to please others to keep myself happy .

I have always taken care of myself , whether through exercise , trying to eat somewhat healthy (My family wont agree with the same), reading books for motivation. Although , there are days where I try to push myself through all this. I have never really cared on how I look , but I do cared about that I looked presentable if I stepped out of the house. If you find me at home coming unannounced , you will not be able to recognize me . I guess that is outcome of working from home these days. But , having said that I see around me the buzz of how good you look once you step in 40’s – wrinkles showing up once you are in 40’s and the need to fix those or hide those. What I don’t understand why the need ? Can we not accept aging any more . Why living a healthy life is not that important than trying to look like 20’s is more important in your 40’s . Well I know many of you will disagree with me on the same thoughts, but I just feel we want to see us somewhere which actually does not exists . Its a place that is created in our mind through social media . With so much stress in our everyday life , I feel if we connect with each other on our daily struggles , I feel that creates much more empathy in our environment and understanding rather than chasing superficial things which is short lived and there is never an end to this.

With these thoughts , I wrap up my very first blog. I would like to welcome your views on the same.